I wrote this post back when Eric and I celebrated our 5 year wedding anniversary (which was... nearly a year ago... whoops) and I never got around to posting it. I thought it would be fun to share it now as I am thinking about all of the ways our marriage will change in the future when this baby comes.
5 Things that Make our Marriage Great:
1. We are each others' #2. God is our #1, always. This is the most important aspect of our marriage, but also the toughest. I love Eric more than any other person in the world, literally. However, Eric cannot be the source of my happiness, or I would be disappointed. He is an absolutely amazing person, but he is human. As am I. As much as we love each other, we both desire that the other loves the Lord more.
2. We don't fight. We really don't. I always feel weird telling people that... I promise I'm not trying to brag or even say that we don't communicate. We disagree on things all the time (we're different people) but we refuse to fight about things. This is what comes naturally to use (we're both pretty laid back), but it has also been an important aspect of our marriage. We don't yell at one another. If one person is extremely upset, then they take a break until they feel better and we can resume the discussion. Discussions are fine, fighting is not fine.
3. We do not disrespect each other. It is such a terrible thing to watch spouses disrespect each other in public. I can't tell you how many times I have felt uncomfortable when someone has made a comment like "well, if you EVER did anything around the house..." or something along those lines to their spouse. If we have an issue with one another, we talk about it. It's just not good to bring up things like that in front of other people - it makes those people feel uncomfortable AND it's disrespectful and creates animosity.
4. We handle finances the same way. We've all heard that money issues are the #1 cause of divorce. Eric and I actually had a lot of discussion about finances before we got married (do you have debt? how do you feel about paying off debt? is it important to you live within your means?) which was so helpful. We both view money as a necessity, but not a source of happiness. We budget every dollar we earn every month, so we are usually not surprised by where our money goes each month. We also each have our own "fun money" so I can't get mad at Eric when he spends his on coffee shops and golf and he doesn't get annoyed with me when I spend mine on *ahem* clothes.
5. We try new things together. This one has actually been tough for us because we are complete homebodies and love Netflix as much as anyone, but I always feel like I learn something new about Eric when we get out of our comfort zone. Traveling together is the best way that I have experienced this, but I have also found that you don't necessarily have to go far or spend a lot of money to have this experience. We have done things like hiking, hosting people in our home, creating new traditions, etc. that have offered us a chance to know each other in new ways.
Have you ever thought through the things that make your marriage great?