Oct 18, 2012

"The Honeymoon Phase"

Here we are on our actual honeymoon in Jamaica

Eric and I have been married now for almost four years. In the grand scheme of things, that is a really short time to be married (my grandparents just celebrated SIXTY years!), but to me it feels like a long time. I recently told someone that Eric and I were "over the honeymoon phase." It's kind of hilarious to me that I said that because I always thought the whole idea of a honeymoon phase was a joke. But alas, here I am on the other side of it.

What the honeymoon phase was to me (and Eric). It was less "birds chirping, ring around the rosy" and more "I want to be around you more than I want anything else." Eric and I had a long distance relationship for nearly two years so when we were finally in the same place, I just felt like we couldn't be around each other enough. I've always heard that living with a guy was an adjustment, but when we got married and finally got to live together, it was more fun and exciting than anything else. We just had so much fun doing normal things together (cooking dinner, watching movies, playing scrabble, etc).

How I realized the honeymoon phase was over. All of the things I wrote about above are still true. We still love spending time together and we absolutely love having a home together. But one day I realized that the little ridiculous things that Eric did/does were no longer the cutest thing in the world. Those things are just Eric. They're who he is. Some things are annoying. They don't upset me - they're just reality. And I know Eric feels exactly the same way about all my little quirks.

I definitely love Eric more now than I did when we first got married.  It's a deeper, more long-lasting type of love but that doesn't mean it's always rainbows and butterflies.

What about you? Has anyone else realized that they actually experienced the honeymoon phase? Do you think it's a real thing? 

is the honeymoon phase real


  1. i definitely think its a real thing. I am currently still in it. I have only been married two years and the first year he was deployed. now that he is back home we both are constantly arranging are schedules so that we can be around it each other as much as possible! Your right. being apart makes one realize how wonderful it is to be together!!


    1. I know exactly what you mean - whenever either one of us goes on a trip, we get to experience the awesomeness when we are in the same place again! It's wonderful!

  2. I like you two a whole lot. And your marriage.

  3. Art and I dated long distance and our marriage is pretty long distance too, considering he is gone 2/3rds of the year for his job. I don't think we ever had a honeymoon stage... maybe when we were dating... but the day after we returned home from our actual honeymoon, he left for work and I was left in Houston by myself to figure out life, so we never have had the opportunity. That all sounds depressing. It's not! We have a great marriage, just a different one. Our life is weird. But yeah, no honeymoon stage.

    1. It probably sounds weird to most people, but I wouldn't have changed the fact that Eric and I dated long-distance for anything... it was hard but it was good for both of us. I'm sure a sometimes-long-distance-marriage is even harder, but I can imagine that there a good things too!

  4. I so agree with you on this. My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We knew each other for 3 years prior to that and did the long-distance thing for a while. And I do mean REAL LONG DISTANCE, he was in Europe, I was in USA. I definitely think there is no more honeymoon phase as in he has his quirks and bads and I have mine and we cope with them, together. Also, now it is getting more real than ever as we start a family and expect our first baby this upcoming January. I definitely love him now more than ever. After all, I moved back to his city (Tirana, Albania) 6 years after we were married, to be with him and continue to be married to him. Now that I know he is also going to be the father of my child, this has strengthened, solidified and deepened our love as well as our sense of togetherness and family. =)

    I wish you and Eric to be celebrating sixty years together just like your grand-parents. How awesome is that and I too hope to fall in our parents' and grandparents' footsteps.


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