|Here we are on our actual honeymoon in Jamaica|
Eric and I have been married now for almost four years. In the grand scheme of things, that is a really short time to be married (my grandparents just celebrated SIXTY years!), but to me it feels like a long time. I recently told someone that Eric and I were "over the honeymoon phase." It's kind of hilarious to me that I said that because I always thought the whole idea of a honeymoon phase was a joke. But alas, here I am on the other side of it.
What the honeymoon phase was to me (and Eric). It was less "birds chirping, ring around the rosy" and more "I want to be around you more than I want anything else." Eric and I had a long distance relationship for nearly two years so when we were finally in the same place, I just felt like we couldn't be around each other enough. I've always heard that living with a guy was an adjustment, but when we got married and finally got to live together, it was more fun and exciting than anything else. We just had so much fun doing normal things together (cooking dinner, watching movies, playing scrabble, etc).
How I realized the honeymoon phase was over. All of the things I wrote about above are still true. We still love spending time together and we absolutely love having a home together. But one day I realized that the little ridiculous things that Eric did/does were no longer the cutest thing in the world. Those things are just Eric. They're who he is. Some things are annoying. They don't upset me - they're just reality. And I know Eric feels exactly the same way about all my little quirks.
I definitely love Eric more now than I did when we first got married. It's a deeper, more long-lasting type of love but that doesn't mean it's always rainbows and butterflies.
What about you? Has anyone else realized that they actually experienced the honeymoon phase? Do you think it's a real thing?
is the honeymoon phase real