I wrote this post back when Eric and I celebrated our 5 year wedding anniversary (which was... nearly a year ago... whoops) and I never got around to posting it. I thought it would be fun to share it now as I am thinking about all of the ways our marriage will change in the future when this baby comes.
5 Things that Make our Marriage Great:
1. We are each others' #2. God is our #1, always. This is the most important aspect of our marriage, but also the toughest. I love Eric more than any other person in the world, literally. However, Eric cannot be the source of my happiness, or I would be disappointed. He is an absolutely amazing person, but he is human. As am I. As much as we love each other, we both desire that the other loves the Lord more.
2. We don't fight. We really don't. I always feel weird telling people that... I promise I'm not trying to brag or even say that we don't communicate. We disagree on things all the time (we're different people) but we refuse to fight about things. This is what comes naturally to use (we're both pretty laid back), but it has also been an important aspect of our marriage. We don't yell at one another. If one person is extremely upset, then they take a break until they feel better and we can resume the discussion. Discussions are fine, fighting is not fine.
3. We do not disrespect each other. It is such a terrible thing to watch spouses disrespect each other in public. I can't tell you how many times I have felt uncomfortable when someone has made a comment like "well, if you EVER did anything around the house..." or something along those lines to their spouse. If we have an issue with one another, we talk about it. It's just not good to bring up things like that in front of other people - it makes those people feel uncomfortable AND it's disrespectful and creates animosity.
4. We handle finances the same way. We've all heard that money issues are the #1 cause of divorce. Eric and I actually had a lot of discussion about finances before we got married (do you have debt? how do you feel about paying off debt? is it important to you live within your means?) which was so helpful. We both view money as a necessity, but not a source of happiness. We budget every dollar we earn every month, so we are usually not surprised by where our money goes each month. We also each have our own "fun money" so I can't get mad at Eric when he spends his on coffee shops and golf and he doesn't get annoyed with me when I spend mine on *ahem* clothes.
5. We try new things together. This one has actually been tough for us because we are complete homebodies and love Netflix as much as anyone, but I always feel like I learn something new about Eric when we get out of our comfort zone. Traveling together is the best way that I have experienced this, but I have also found that you don't necessarily have to go far or spend a lot of money to have this experience. We have done things like hiking, hosting people in our home, creating new traditions, etc. that have offered us a chance to know each other in new ways.
Have you ever thought through the things that make your marriage great?
Sep 24, 2014
So today, because Wednesday is already kicking my butt, I decided to one of those "bump update" things. I'm pretty sure this will be interesting to... my mom... so don't feel obligated to read it if you aren't my mom.
How far along? 31 weeks
Baby size: A coconut
Total weight gain: hahaha.... a lot. I don't have scale at home, but my last doctor's appointment showed about 25lbs.
Maternity clothes? Pants and skirts: yes. I am still wearing a lot of my regular loose tops (this shirt is not maternity) which is pretty awesome considering I have 9weeks left. I'm hoping not to buy any new maternity items.
Stretch marks: Not that I've noticed. However, I'm trying not to think about it.
Sleep: Oh man, I was sleeping sooo well (with just one bathroom break a night), but the past week I started to get really uncomfortable. I set up this hilarious looking pillow stack (imagine a recliner made of pillows) and that seems to be helping a little.
Best moment this week: Laying in bed with Eric talking about the baby and feeling him kick for about an hour. We have been so busy that hasn't happened in a really long time.
Miss Anything? Will you judge me if I say alcohol? I love wine, and margaritas were calling to me all summer. I'm pretty convinced I will be asking for champagne in the hospital.
Movement: All day, everyday. Right now. He kicks when he's hungry, he kicks when he eats, he kicks when he's bored... Hopefully this is not a prelude to his life outside the womb.
Food cravings: I kind of wish I was having food cravings so that I could be mean and bossy about it. But I haven't really had any cravings or aversions the entire time.
Anything making you queasy or sick: Not at all, and I am not taking that for granted.
Have you started to show yet? Um, look at my pictures? Actually, I only started getting comments from strangers (nice comments!) about a month ago, so I'm still getting used to "showing" to other people.
Belly Button in or out? Well, you can look back at my pictures and see it... it's been out for a long time.
Wedding rings on or off? On
Mood: I'm thinking my husband might be better judge of this... but I would say normal. I'm getting more excited to meet this hairy coconut, but I'm also getting a little stressed about all of the things I need to do before then.
Looking forward to: Getting the nursery done! We are in the process, but it's been a slow one since we have so much going on. It will be so nice to walk in that room and not see stuff all over the floor.
Linking up:Because Shanna Said So
Sep 22, 2014
*bump status: 31 weeks
Well, it's Monday. I normally don't struggle with Ihatemondayssomuch issues, but this morning was rough. I am getting more and more tired so every morning feels like a bit of a struggle. Plus, everyone (thank you, strangers!) has been making comments about how tired I'll be after the baby is born, so that isn't helping anything. Anyway, I started this morning off with a pumpkin spice latte (half syrup - believe, me it's so much better) which seemed to help a little bit.
In clothing-related news, this is the first time I have worn a button-down shirt open over another shirt. I think I was secretly afraid of looking too 90s, but I'm glad I tried it out. This pregnancy thing is forcing me to get creative, which I kind of love. I don't want to buy any more maternity clothes (only 9 more weeks!) so I am making myself wear pretty much anything I can squeeze into.
Sep 19, 2014
Last weekend I had my first baby shower! It was thrown by my aunts and some of my favorite friends. They went with a book theme, which I loved because I am such a reader and I am hoping that this little boy will be too :) I'm also not a really intense theme-y person so this felt like the perfect fit.
The food was arranged with a little bit of a theme (look at those green eggs!) and was amazing. Shower-food usually isn't known for being incredible, but this food was. My aunts made nearly everything and it was seriously so good. Also, brunch food is my favorite food category, ever. The fact that I can't stop talking about the food right now is probably a really good indication of my appetite lately.
P.S. for anyone local, check out the baker who did the cookies!
It was so sweet to read through all of the sweet messages left my friends and family!
My beautiful aunts and my mom.
Both my mom and Eric's mom kept a 1-year calendar and a detailed baby book that actually look really similar to each other. It has been really fun reading through and comparing when we took our first steps, had our first haircuts, etc.
Best baby shower game ever. Now I have a huge stack of weird pictures combining Eric and my face... I'm thinking creepy nursery decor?
The pretty, lovely, wonderful hostesses. Love you!
The guests played "present bingo" while I opened gifts, which was probably nice since watching people open gifts can get old.
How cute is this silver rattle that my grandmother got me?
My mother-in-law and my mom - they are both incredible women. I can't believe my son will have them as grandmothers!
The shower was absolutely beautiful and I felt so blessed by it. I know I said it before, but the fact that so many people would come to celebrate me and this baby was humbling. I am so honored by the time and effort that was put into the shower by people that I love. Now that our guest room is full of baby things, everything is starting to feel much more real. I am so excited to meet this baby!
Sep 17, 2014
*bump status: 30 weeks
I actually wore this to my first baby shower this past weekend. This is NOT a "baby shower outfit" - I had plans to wear a cute striped dress, but I woke up on Saturday morning and it was freezing outside and I said to myself "you're the pregnant guest of honor. You do what you want." So I wore jeans. And I have no regrets. NO REGRETS.
I'll share more about my shower later (so many pictures of people you don't care about - it's going to be awesome) but let me just say that I had forgotten what it was like to have people give you really nice gifts. It happened at our wedding (nearly 6 years ago) but I had forgotten how awesome/humbling it is. First you are so pumped because you got a $60 play-mat for your (hopefully) cute baby, but then it's like "oh man, you spent $60 on me just because I got pregnant." So weird. But so wonderful.
Linking up:Because Shanna Said So
Sep 15, 2014
*bump status: 30 weeks
Looking legit pregnant over here, people. This baby is growing fast. It's definitely a little disturbing, but also really exciting to see myself get more enormous everyday.
Let's talk about navy. I used to have an aversion to it. My blog-friend Andi said she thought her personal aversion stemmed from wearing school uniforms, which I think probably factors in for me as well. Navy was a gross color I associated with uniform pants (our options were navy or khaki... I don't really wear khaki much either these days). Anyway, I found this dress on clearance from Target for $10 so I went for it. And I love it. I actually love it so much that I actually took off the necklace I was wearing because I think it distracted from the pretty color and the neckline. So apparently, I really like navy now. My life will never be the same.
Sep 10, 2014
*bump status: 29 weeks
I usually hope that something interesting will pop into my head when I start writing outfit posts. Something other than "I like this dress" or more recently "look how large my stomach is." But, the truth is that I really like this dress (apparently I wear at the same time every year) and my stomach is also getting pretty darn big. The fact that I can combine the dress and the stomach is actually pretty impressive at this point.
Eric and I start a birth class this week that I am actually really looking forward to. I love class and school and learning so much. That's probably why I work at a university and why I like to teach freshman about time management and study skills and dorky stuff like that. I got really giddy talking about planners yesterday. How the start of a new school year signifies a pretty new planner and how much fun it is to color code your planner based off category. That's normal, right?
Linking up:Because Shanna Said So